Bridges Out of Poverty Tools and Resources

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Tools to continue your learning

Visit the website of Ruby K. Payne, an author of Bridges Out of Poverty.

2018 Book Reports by internal Bridges working group members

All of the following books are available through Aha Process Inc., a Ruby Payne company.

 Emotional Poverty- How to reduce anger, anxiety, and violence by Ruby K. Payne

Emotional poverty is when safety and belonging are jeopardized. Without these emotional resources, you don't have compassion of self and others. Someone low in emotional resources presents as unable to cope, show resilience, and often feels they are never enough to anyone. The emotional resource is the most difficult of the 11 resources to build. It is subtle and unnamed but can impact all relationships and performance in every aspect of life and parenting.

Regardless of financial resources if someone is lacking in emotional resources, they may still be quite “poor”. This has nothing to do with IQ and everything to do with Emotional Intelligence. Emotional poverty also occurs when the brain is not regulated and inner-self is under-developed. Bonding and attachment have not been secure, and the external environment repeatedly reinforces "less than" or "separate from" status.

Understanding and compassion are huge drivers of change. Self awareness is key. This book explains what emotional poverty is and the 'why' of anger, anxiety and conflict so that we can better choose our responses to de-escalate and support others. It removes the blame and helps to understand and motivate better behaviour as opposed to change the individual. The book offers strategies to teach coping techniques to children and students so that we can help them create a better future for themselves.

 How Much of Yourself Do You Own? By Ruby K. Payne and Emilia O’Neill-Baker

This book is a process for building emotional resources with each chapter addressing issues that keep us from emotional wholeness.

  • It is important to be aware of how we spend our energy. This is different than how we spend our time. Our energy is where we put our effort or our zest.
  • If you do the activities in this book you will learn about emotions and feelings and how our body reacts to these emotions, both good and bad.
  • If we feel we are missing pieces of ourselves, how do we get those pieces back? The activities in this book will help you to do this – to accept yourself and your experiences and work towards where you really want to be.
  • The cycle of change is never ending but we can maintain our energy in a constructive way. We can learn and grow from our journey.

Of course, there will be stumbling blocks along the way, but if we work at it, we can rewire our brain. We can change old habits, feel good and regain our energy.

Emotional wealth is empowering! Working through the activities that are in this book will help you to reach your emotional wealth.

 The ‘R’ Rules A guide for teens to identify and build resources By Elizabeth W. Souther and contributing author: Ruby K Payne, Ph.D.

The ‘R’ Rules will help to:

  • Create and manage a game plan for life
  • Engage in teamwork; develop, organize and manage projects
  • Recognize and use patterns to predict, problem solve and plan
  • Develop “voice”, contribute, and become community leaders
The ‘R’ Rules is filled with fantastic tips and activities to help with motivation, learning about what we value, our goals and how to identify and build resources. The more we can focus on building resources such as education, relationships, support systems, role models, and communication skills the more choices we have in creating the future we want. As a great resource, this book helps us answer what we want to do in our lives and how we can make it happen. It was specifically written for teens but could be used for anyone who is working on goal setting and making a change in their life. To help put our learning into action the activities in the ‘R’ Rules are realistic, interactive, and helpful to getting plans into place. The activities are fun and will help anyone explore themselves and the things they want to work on achieving in life.
 Working with Parents - Building Relationships for Student Success by Ruby K Payne, Ph.D.

" What made the biggest difference was whether or not parents provided these three things for their children: Support, Insistence, Expectations."

When working with parents from poverty, use these kinds of phrases: 

  • Learning this will help your child win more often
  • The mind is a mental weapon that no one can take from you
  • Learning this will help your child make more money
  • This information will help keep your child safer
  • I know you love and care about your child very much or you would not be here 

Tips for working with parents from poverty: 

  • Always call them Mr. or Mrs. - it's a sign of respect
  • Use humour (not sarcasm)
  • Deliver bad news through a story
  • Use casual language if you are comfortable with it
  • Offer a cup of coffee
  • Use adult Voice (not parent voice)
  • Be understanding but firm. Be open to discussion 

Engaging parents:

  • Have gatherings that involve food
  • Create emotional safety for parents by being respectful of their concerns, openly sharing school activities, clarifying behavioural parameters/expectations of the school, and finding available opportunities
  • Make a newsletter - but keep it simple, clear and to the point
  • Use simple formats for giving information - use visuals
  • Pay parents to come in and call other parents - have clear list of what can be discussed
 Achievement for All: Keys to Educating Middle Grades Students in Poverty by Ruby Payne

To help adolescents (ages 10-15) living in poverty to determine and realize their dreams and goals, this book will provide you with information on:

  • the developmental processes of young adolescents and what that looks like some a youth living in poverty
  • how to find resources and interventions for youth living in poverty
  • helping adolescents develop their "future story"
  • how to better understand the stages of development for adolescents and how living in an under resourced household can affect each of the stage 
This book is great if you are looking to understand an adolescent in your life (your own or one you are working with) and how you can support them at each stage of their development to give them their best chance in life.
 Hidden Rules of Class at Work by Ruby K. Payne, PhD, and Don L. Krabill

The purpose of the book is twofold: to understand the unspoken class issues related to supervision and promotion. This book is helpful to those interested in advancement at work.

This book offers the following:

  • A series of individual assessment tools
  • The Krabill/Payne Resource Quotient - presents 10 resources related to the work place where the reader can find their professional strengths and weaknesses
  • There are several Case Studies that the reader will score and then can match their results with the debrief provided
  • The book offers key Hidden Rules so that the reader can understand the transition from beginning supervision to mid management then mid management to executive level
The book then offers an in-depth look at each of the 11 resources.

 The 11 Bridges Resources

 11 Bridges Resouces

 The Bridges out of Poverty Mental Model

Mental model for Bridges out of Poverty Framework